Soulmates & The One
Giving Attention
Does Your Relationship Have A TED?
Is Your Mate A Cheapskate or Budget Conscious?
Getting Back Together With An Ex-Lover
Almost Another One Night Stand
Asd Breakthrough
Dominant Woman
Cute Latina
August 14, 2014 at 2:07 pm
#415 re: “Is a man supposed to avoid improving himself too much?”
lolz. Hypergamy doesn’t care.
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deti says:
August 14, 2014 at 2:10 pm
My read on Dr. J.’s advice, and how I’d implement it, is simply this:
Make a woman put some skin in the game. If she responds to the low investment first date, good. If not, you’re out a little money and some time. But she has to respond. You have to see IOIs. If they’re not there, you cut it short. You have to see reciprocation.
If she’s not responding to your texts, you bail. If she’s not responding to escalation, you bail. If it’s now sexytime and she’s demanding more investment and you’re still where you were on date 1, you bail. (You should have bailed well before now.)
I see Dr. J’s advice as making a woman step into male frame – the frame of rationality and escalating, more or less mutual responses and replies. You make her step into your frame by requiring some response back from her. And it is the man’s frame by making her responsible for her conduct. It is the man’s frame because it requires her to demonstrate a (more or less) rational response – an in kind response of more or less equivalent value to what you ponied up. Not an emotional response. Not an “I just don’t FEEEEEEL it” response. A response that MAKES RATIONAL SENSE based on the stage of the interaction, the circumstances and the context.
Giving Attention
Does Your Relationship Have A TED?
Is Your Mate A Cheapskate or Budget Conscious?
Getting Back Together With An Ex-Lover
Almost Another One Night Stand
Asd Breakthrough
Dominant Woman
Cute Latina
August 14, 2014 at 2:07 pm
#415 re: “Is a man supposed to avoid improving himself too much?”
lolz. Hypergamy doesn’t care.
438
deti says:
August 14, 2014 at 2:10 pm
My read on Dr. J.’s advice, and how I’d implement it, is simply this:
Make a woman put some skin in the game. If she responds to the low investment first date, good. If not, you’re out a little money and some time. But she has to respond. You have to see IOIs. If they’re not there, you cut it short. You have to see reciprocation.
If she’s not responding to your texts, you bail. If she’s not responding to escalation, you bail. If it’s now sexytime and she’s demanding more investment and you’re still where you were on date 1, you bail. (You should have bailed well before now.)
I see Dr. J’s advice as making a woman step into male frame – the frame of rationality and escalating, more or less mutual responses and replies. You make her step into your frame by requiring some response back from her. And it is the man’s frame by making her responsible for her conduct. It is the man’s frame because it requires her to demonstrate a (more or less) rational response – an in kind response of more or less equivalent value to what you ponied up. Not an emotional response. Not an “I just don’t FEEEEEEL it” response. A response that MAKES RATIONAL SENSE based on the stage of the interaction, the circumstances and the context.